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You Should be Living Uncomfortably

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It wasn’t until last year that I really figured out the meaning of the old annoying adage- do something that scares you every day. When I was younger I thought that meant living like you were on an episode of Fear Factor. But now as an adult, I find it a rare occasion I am faced with the opportunity to put my head in a box of scorpions or eat a bag of bull testicles. I have also realized that there are a lot of different kinds of fear.

The one this phrase is honing in on is the fear of the unknown, the fear of discomfort. We should really change it to do one thing that makes you uncomfortable every day. The things that make your heart beat faster. The things that make your palms sweaty, arms heavy (mom’s spaghetti). That little itch that’s always in the back of your mind.

Unfortunately, these things are easy to put off. Maybe tomorrow. Or next week. When it’s sunnier when I feel more awake when there isn’t a Netflix show to binge. These are the things that seem to keep coming up for you in conversation, or by random chance. The things that make you say; “I’ve always wanted to do that” or “one day”.

These are also the things that are the most rewarding. If you can push through the discomfort, fear of judgments and failures or just looking like a doofus. Which we all do from time to time no matter how careful we are. Being a beginner inherently means that you have a lot to learn. It’s going to feel like you have bitten off more than you can chew. But you haven’t. Everyone, no matter where they are today, starts at the beginning.

It might feel frustrating. Like when you strut into your first day of pottery expecting to create a dazzling new kitchen set and walk out covered in clay having erected but one tiny lopsided bowl. But you will get better. With a little consistency, you will be making lopsided cups! Some even big enough to drink out of. You will feel proud. You can’t do anything new if you don’t try anything new. And don’t worry it’s easy to set up some accountability…

It’s really a four-step process to starting your thing.

  1. Name it. Say out loud that thing you keep putting off. That you are going to commit to right meow. Tell one friend about your exciting new thing!
  2. Write down the first step. What is the absolute first thing you need to do, to start your thing? Look up a class schedule? Research at the library? If you’re having trouble try starting with the end goal and work backward, maybe it’s Professional Tap Dancer. And back off from there. Competitions, practice, lessons, shoe rentals.
  3. Set a date. Once you know the first step, put that shiz on your calendar. Set a date and time to complete your thing. This will help hold you accountable
  4. Do the thing.

You did it! Was it uncomfortable? Probably. Did you die? Hopefully not. Now you are one step closer to being an expert at your new thing. And learning and growing by living uncomfortably. Go easy on yourself. Don’t try to add too many new things at once- that will lead to burn out real quick.

Drop a comment below and tell us all about the new thing you’re doing.

3 thoughts on “You Should be Living Uncomfortably

  1. Hi! I just moved to Seattle, by myself, and it was a little like mom’s spaghetti on my sweater already, but everyday gets a little bit cooler, and I can say wholeheartedly that it is essential to put yourself in states of discomfort as it will always yield the greatest results! Chin-chin! Xox

    1. Well, it sounds like a big move chasing your dreams! I would love to visit Seattle maybe by then you will know all the hot spots 😉

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